If we wish to have an increase in marital satisfaction we have to be prepared for it. We have to clearly define boundaries and be prepared and mature enough to move to the next step. We cannot start dating someone and then slide into courting then slide into engagement then one day wake up married to that person, it has to be clearly marked milestones in our progression towards finidng that one special someone to marry. A few tips for learning how to do this is:
1. Take your time
- People rush into relationships all the time we no longer feel comfortable just being friends and getting to know each other we feel like we have to be something more than that.
2. Clealy define the boudaries between Dating, Courting, Engagement, and marriage.
- There are important events and conversations that must take place in each of these catagories, when we finally feel like we are ready then we can move forward to the next step.
3. Know the difference between dating and courting
- Dating= going on lots of dates and getting to know each other, but still dating other people. You are not a couple and should not act as a couple, which means to keep the physical intamacy to a minimum, keeping the phyiscal intimacy out of your relationship longer will help your friendship grow stronger and allow for a strong foundation for an eventual courtship, emgagement, and marriage
- Courtship= Paired off, clearly together as a couple, still going on dates and trying to keep the physical affection to a minimum. You must talk openly about marriage and the things that you expect, you have to work through things together and experience conflict.
4. Remember not to slide through this stages, that is critical to the success of this formula. Clearly define and talk about your relationship and where it is going and then make the decision together to move forward, not becuase you have to but because you are both ready for the greater commitment.
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